Lessons Learned #13

Why do we do it?

I am, of course, not talking about ‘it,’ the f-word. I normally am not afraid to call a spade a spade, not sure if this is because of my Dutch background, but since this is the internet I will refrain from this. No, what I mean is, why do we do the things we do?

This last week I have been very busy, trying to get my website to look the way I want it to look, and doing things to get our film production moving (pun not intended, but oh so funny 🙂 )(sorry, my kind of humour).  And I loved it. I get a kick out of getting it right, out of finishing something, out of somebody noticing that I did something. Possibly because it doesn’t happen that often, but that is not the issue here. I don’t start doing things with that kick in mind, I do it because it has to be done. To have that kick at the end is the icing on the cake.

Sometimes people complain that what they do for the common good is not always good for them. So why do it? I could have not done what I did for the film group, I could have asked somebody else to do it. But I am the one with the most drive to do it (since I was the one that started this group), possibly the one with the most time on my hands. Nobody didn’t mind me doing it. But somebody might have not liked what I did. Would I still want to do it if this was so?

I compare it with raising children (since the film group is sort of my baby). Sometimes you have to do things that you don’t want to do, but you do it for the common good (your children’s good). It doesn’t mean it is good for you. You might be too tired, prefer to do other things, or you have to give up something in order to do this thing for your child. But you do it, and with love. I don’t want praise for it. I don’t want a pat on the back. Sure, like I said, I get a kick if somebody does pat me on the back, but that’s not the reason why I do it. Your child might not like it, their friends may not like it. You do it because you know the end result will be better. Your kids will be better in the long run. That’s the thing you have to keep in mind: the future. Because if we didn’t do the things we do now, things will turn to shit in the end and everybody will be worse off.

The question is, of course, did you need to do it? Was it your job to do it? That depends on the situation, especially if more than one ‘parent’ is involved. Communication is the key! This is my motto as I think most problems in this world arise with inadequate communication. Call a spade a spade!

Have a Wonderful Weekend Doing It!

Author: Jacky Dahlhaus

Paranormal Romance Author

2 thoughts on “Lessons Learned #13”

  1. “Because if we didn’t do the things we do now, things will turn to shit in the end and everybody will be worse off.”

    I want to print this off and affix it to my computer! For some reason this resonates with me – it’s funny, but mostly true, and mostly funny because it’s true! Haha 🙂

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